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May 07 2018

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April 23 2018

sigmaleph:

Men who complain about how people are trying to ban flirting, and women who say they enjoy it when men keep pursuing after a ‘no’, and that general class of reaction to social norms intended to reduce harassment, are basically saying “I used to be able to indulge in my mild noncon kink without looking for specifically interested partners or negotiating beforehand and now I can’t do that any more and it sucks”

and like

I’m sure going from ‘society is structured to make it easy to indulge in my kink’ to ‘not’ does suck. Having to work to find interested partners can be hard, especially if you never learned a script for it and all your scripts are for the previous social norms. But everybody else has to, y’know? your kink is okay but you don’t get an exception to having to find consenting partners first.

carrionthrash:

just saw someone call putin a terf….. I’m so tired.. u know u can just call people transphobic like I think the implication that putin is a radical feminist might be a little off the mark

March 11 2018

pervocracy:

When someone disagrees with you online and demands you prove your point to their satisfaction by writing a complete and logically sound defense including citations, you can save a lot of time by not doing that.

Bro, I’ve known you for twelve seconds and enjoyed none of them, I’m not taking homework assignments from you.

March 05 2018

argumate:

I follow the golden rule and treat other people the way I expect them to treat me: by staying the fuck away from them.

February 27 2018

anarchetypal:

i saw this post earlier about therapists and it reminded me of my old therapist paul, who in my opinion is one of the greatest men alive and who did not put up with my bullshit for even one second

anyway i go in to see paul one week in the summer of 2016, and i’m doing my usual bullshit which consists of me talking shit about myself, and paul is staring at me, and then he cuts me off and says that he’s got a new tool for helping people recognize when they’re using negative language, and gets up and goes over to his desk

and i’m like alright hit me with that sweet sweet self-help article my man, because i’m a linguistic learner and whenever paul’s like here i have a tool for you to use it’s pretty much always an article or a book or something

paul opens a drawer, takes something out, and turns back around. i stare.

i say, paul.

is that a nerf gun.

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yeah, says paul.

i say, are you gonna shoot me with a nerf gun in this professional setting.

he happily informs me that that’s really up to me, isn’t it. and sits back down. and gestures, like, go ahead, what were you saying?

and i squint suspiciously and start back up about how i’m having too much anxiety to leave the house to run errands, like it was a miracle to even get here, like i’ve forgone getting groceries for the past week and that’s so stupid, what a stupid issue, i’m an idiot, how could i–

a foam dart hits me in the leg.

i go, hey! because my therapist just shot me in the leg. paul blinks at me placidly and raises an eyebrow. i squint again.

i say, slowly, it’s– not a stupid issue, i’m not stupid, but it’s frustrating me and i don’t want it to be a problem i’m having.

no dart this time. okay. sweet.

so the rest of the hour passes with me intermittently getting nailed with tiny foam darts and then swearing and then fixing my language and, wouldn’t you know it, i start liking myself a little more by the end of the session, which is mildly infuriating because paul can tell and he’s very smug about it 

anyway i leave his office and the lady having the next appointment walks in and i hear what’s all over the floor? and paul very seriously says cognitive behavioral therapy tools.

February 26 2018

Why is Tumblr used more by women and girls than by men and boys? At least, if Jordan Peterson is to be believed on that. Is it just a founder/snowball effect or is there some real reason for it?

theunitofcaring:

I think the main thing that gym classes taught me as a kid was that sometimes grownups tell you to do things which hurt and are awful, and everyone will be frustrated with you if you complain about it or try to avoid it. You hate dodgeball because getting hit hurts? Too bad, get better at dodgeball. You hate volleyball because you end up with horrible painful bruises? You’re doing it wrong, when you get it right it won’t hurt. Running a mile hurts? We’ll fail you if you walk, and ~colleges see that grade~. If you don’t want to do an activity because it’s painful and awful, then you are a bad sport and disappointing to the authority figures and might get in trouble and will definitely have to do it anyway. 

And I know that it’s not viable to have a class of thirty little kids do whatever vaguely athletic activity they want with enough supervision they are safe, and I know that physical activity is good for people. But still, all the stories about abuses in sports make sense to me, because we are constantly telling kids that sometimes we will make them do painful things because we said so, and then expecting them to know the difference between that and the Bad Things.

February 25 2018

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February 11 2018

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Thread by me on why steelmanning in politics is unpopular - even with rationalist-adjacent folk like me. Feels like it’s akin to an evolutionary unstable strategy / self-defeating memetic strategy. Although maybe that’s just the warlike nature of Twitter, with its short, sharp, utterances, warping my thought processes. Thoughts, anyone?

February 10 2018

leviathan-supersystem:

misanthropymademe:

leviathan-supersystem:

tariqah:

misanthropymademe:

tariqah:

misanthropymademe:

ranma-official:

reconguista:

ranma-official:

tariqah:

I keep saying this but the existence of sex robots is only reflection of how alienated the personhood of women is under capitalism and how patraiarchal desire has detached sex from love, mutual affection, and consent

you should say something else, like for example something that isn’t obviously wrong, but I am afraid that you are not capable

Nigga that was awful

Her entire blog is, yet @staff doesn’t do shit about it.

Variations of “if you were a good person, your sexual wants would be satisified in a wholesome relationship” is the endpoint of media feminism.

You really think me saying having robots for sex is a reflection to the objectification of women something about “your sexual needs will be satisfied in a wholesome relationship”…and what’s really funny is that you’re implying saying that is actually wrong

They’re fleshlights and vibrators with algorithms, Karen. Between endlessly recycling panic about new masturbatory aid du jour leading to sex crimes and thinly disguised white picket fence plod, this is the point where the supposed Marxism turns into a conservative fantasy of functional wholesomeness.

You really fucking think that fleshlights and vibrators with algorithms that are actually effigies of real people are good ideas🤔 have you heard about Frigid Farrah? It’s a sex doll that says no, only for the owner of the sex doll to stimulate rape. Do you know a sex doll got damaged at a convention because of how much she was molested? 🤔🤔🤔 you think all of this really is about an upgraded fleshlight

this is the point where the supposed Marxism turns into a conservative fantasy of functional wholesomeness.

i love that they dropped “functional” in there as a negative, as if there’s anything wrong with wanting things to be functional. actually doing that for “wholesomeness” might be even worse, “wholesome” literally just means “conductive to or promoting physical or moral well-being” and that’s…… not inherently bad (though obviously wholesomeness/well-being are often defined in a reactionary manner, there’s nothing inherently reactionary about the concept of….. well-being)

 @misanthropymademe is actually playing into the conservative narrative here- the conservative narrative generally is that the only way to have a functional society based on a functional ethical framework is strict adherence to a reactionary traditionalist framework- that if we don’t have patriarchal nuclear families, societal collapse will ensue.

instead of questioning that framework, like by proposing that it’s possible to have a functional society which evolves, and which evolves to fit more and more peoples needs (instead of just upholding a toxic exploitative hierarchy), misanthrophymademe is instead just saying “actually……. functional societies are bad, and societal collapse is good.”

anyways, peoples desire for and drive for human companionship is good, and serves a necessary role of promoting social cohesion, and circumventing that by fucking inanimate objects would be bad, and would result in societal collapse. also allowing conservatives to have a monopoly on concepts like “functionality” and “wholesomeness” would just ensure that conservatives/reactionaries won, because functionality and wholesomeness are good (wholesomeness literally just means “conducive to or promoting well-being” how on earth is that bad wtf)

“though obviously wholesomeness/well-being are often defined in a reactionary manner” then goes into “peoples desire for and drive for human companionship is good, and serves a necessary role of promoting social cohesion, and circumventing that by fucking inanimate objects would be bad, and would result in societal collapse”, lol

Masturbatory aids with algorithms won’t lead to societal collapse any more than porn and sex workers did. A desire for and drive for human companionship is good but reducing it to social utility is bad if it leads to sexbots=apocalypse takes and swatting at other proxy shit. Sexbots aren’t gonna do (and aren’t doing) much to the social hierarchy, the people who think robots will make wimminz superfluous have already checked out anyway and I can’t imagine you of all people wanting them to get married and bring up kids. 

Masturbatory aids with algorithms won’t lead to societal collapse any more than porn and sex workers did.

sex bots aren’t just “masturbatory aids with algorithms”, they’re intended to simulate the experience of being with another human being in a more total sense and circumvent the need for actual human companionship. this is demonstrated by current realdoll owners, who don’t just use their dolls as masturbatory aid but also talk to them and otherwise attempt to use them as a substitute for the emotional component of a relationship.

perhaps “societal collapse” was an exaggeration, but they’ll certainly lead to societal dysfunction- just look at the people today who own realdolls, who are immensely dysfunctional, and who’s dysfunction only increases due to the fact that they’ve cut themselves off from social pressures which might motivate them to become more functional. you yourself tacitly acknowledged that this is dysfunctional by contrasting it with “functional wholesomeness” and then tried to frame the very concepts of functionality and wholesomeness as inherently reactionary.

A desire for and drive for human companionship is good but reducing it to social utility is bad

bzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzt incorrect. a desire and drive for human companionship is good because of it’s social utility.

Sexbots aren’t gonna do (and aren’t doing) much to the social hierarchy, the people who think robots will make wimminz superfluous have already checked out anyway and I can’t imagine you of all people wanting them to get married and bring up kids.

you’ve failed to parse the context in which i brought up the concept of hierarchy in my argument- i never said sexbots would do anything to social hierarchy- and furthermore you’re again neglecting the possibility that there are more options for how humans can relate to each other than “brutally enforced patriarchal traditionalism”. i don’t want people to “get married and have kids” specifically, i want people to learn how to be in a mutually loving relationship with another actual human being instead of dwelling in their basement with a sexbot. i’m sure we’ve all seen a person who was motivated to better themselves and become more compassionate and less selfish because of their desire to form/maintain a relationship (whether romantic, sexual, or platonic). circumventing that social process would give people less motivation to become better at interacting with other people, and that would be bad. i’m not saying shitty people should get married while still being shitty people, i’m saying that their desire for companionship might possibly motivate them to become less shitty people and it would be bad if that didn’t happen.

I agree that people who just want to stay in their basement with their sexbot forever are dysfunctional. I don’t agree that the right way to solve that problem is to ban or at least to socially taboo sexbots, which is what you’re implying society should do (although one or both of those will probably happen in most countries). We have another problem too, which is we are overshooting on reducing birth rates below the safe rate of 2 children per couple. And another problem which is that intelligent people aren’t having enough children, early enough. Let’s kill three birds with one stone and massively increase how much we subsidise having biological children. You can’t have biological children with a sexbot. My policy will peel off the guys who are just a bit nervous from the guys who want to stay in their basement forever.

But for them, there’s always Jordan Peterson.

Or getting a job. About which I also have a policy ready and waiting for that exact scenario… a job guarantee.

u-01:

pileofknives:

tariqah:

excrementous:

tariqah:

I keep saying this but the existence of sex robots is only reflection of how alienated the personhood of women is under capitalism and how patraiarchal desire has detached sex from love, mutual affection, and consent

or…. so people  who have lost their  loved one or dont have the mental capabilities to  juggle a social life feel less like outsiders?? 100% smash that patriarchy my pal but its fucking ableist to assume that sex dolls are all for nt trauma free cis white men. when they arent. also male sex robots exist. also some women are gay. also nb ppl can have sex. like?

If sex posi is the hill you will die on, I’ve come to kill you. Stop your stupidity because you and I both know that regardless of who has the sex robot, the fact that it exists as a reflection of a human being without desire and without a right to say a word, without the right to consent, and without a will of its own will always stay creepy. I don’t fucking care who buys it. It’s bad. And you are fucking stupid if you think sex robots being used by women or the like will actually be good things.

That reply fills so many squares on Performative Wokeness Tumblr Bingo

I can’t believe someone criticizes the sex robots and the first though this Tumblr-mega-brain-user has is “ableism” iconic. 

What an annoying reply. At once dismissive and totally opaque. Do you deny that ableism is a real thing? I don’t know where to start with this one.

adamsbolg:

tariqah:

escort-rants:

tariqah:

excrementous:

tariqah:

I keep saying this but the existence of sex robots is only reflection of how alienated the personhood of women is under capitalism and how patraiarchal desire has detached sex from love, mutual affection, and consent

or…. so people  who have lost their  loved one or dont have the mental capabilities to  juggle a social life feel less like outsiders?? 100% smash that patriarchy my pal but its fucking ableist to assume that sex dolls are all for nt trauma free cis white men. when they arent. also male sex robots exist. also some women are gay. also nb ppl can have sex. like?

If sex posi is the hill you will die on, I’ve come to kill you. Stop your stupidity because you and I both know that regardless of who has the sex robot, the fact that it exists as a reflection of a human being without desire and without a right to say a word, without the right to consent, and without a will of its own will always stay creepy. I don’t fucking care who buys it. It’s bad. And you are fucking stupid if you think sex robots being used by women or the like will actually be good things.

Damn, bitch! That’s the most generalized and biased shit I’ve ever heard. Sex robots are TOYS. Something closer to a sex robot would be one of those fucking machines I see on kink.com haha, that shit looks fun. TBH it is STUPID to make such a generalization that people who buy sex robots would do fucked up shit to them, and people that buy sex robots are sexists or degenerates or psychopaths or some shit. Let people live! Human-like robots will be probably EVERYWHERE in the future and you’ll shut your dumb mouth when you realize your old ass is attracted to one lmao. Maybe we’ll be dead before robots look more real and have something closer to a consciousness but damn I’m excited!

i went to a seminar on sex robots last year by a roboethicist, and there’s such an enormous range of ethical issues with them, women’s issues and otherwise, all revolving around the fact that there’s essentially no conceivable it can give consent

I share the concern about Frigid Farrah, the sex robot that says no, because I think it could give impressionable young men unhealthy ideas about consent, but I don’t see the problem if the sex robot, say, simulates enthusiastic consent. We’re talking about dumb machines following a program here, not human-level AI, which simply does not exist at this stage, and may never exist.

pervocracy:

Dear parents who tell their children “Be good or the nurse will give you a shot”:

NO!  BAD!  DO NOT!

you are teaching your children that medicine is a punishment

if you try really hard, can you maybe think of one or two ways this might backfire?

next parent I hear say that, I’m giving them a shot.

misanthropymademe:

Roko’s Gambit: Sexbot Edition, the AI will punish you for either not aiding in creating a paradise of wireheaded horny robos (and aiding in human extinction) or for defiling the pure turbowoke algorithms by arguing that they should be used in fleshy matters. 

Surely the woke algorithms would be endlessly self-flagellating because in the SJW worldview, more privileged (here, being an algorithm that can perform better and faster than humans) means being impure (having to atone for your sins). Pseudo-woke, more like.

programs written in the traditional manner, ie. badly

@argumate
(via flakmaniak)

sad but true.

(via argumate)

Arbital postmortem

Includes explanation of why the founder started just playing videogames instead of working.

December 27 2017

laughingfish:

bloodbending:

peter parker in the 2002 movie is fuckin…. incredible. he gets bitten by a fuckin jacked red blue spider and he doesnt say “hey someone should take me to the hospital mayhaps?” he just goes home. then the bite swells to the size of a fuckin jawbreaker but he’s like “nah i just need a nap.” then he wakes up the next day and discovers that he DOESN’T NEED HIS GLASSES ANYMORE and he has a fuckin six pack. does he flip his entire Fuck? no. he says, “cool.” iconic.

2002 peter parker had no health insurance

December 20 2017

mitigatedchaos:

If having high intelligence feels like everyone else is stupid, does having high executive functioning feel like everyone else is lazy?

pervocracy:

Bad news, good news time!

The bad news is I have melanoma, which is the most dangerous form of skin cancer.  This is part of why I haven’t been very active the last few weeks; the news came as a pretty huge blow.

The good news is I just found out it’s Stage 1, which means it has not started spreading to other organs.  This means I’m probably going to be okay – the 5-year survival rate is about 95%.  (That includes people who coincidentally had heart attacks or car accidents in those 5 years, so it’s even less than a 5% risk from the cancer.)

Next week I’m going to have a minor surgery to cut the thing out.  I’m really looking forward to being rid of this.  And then, hopefully, I’ll go on to continue being not-dead for many more years.

I’ve been over a bit of an emotional rollercoaster with all this and didn’t want to share it until I knew what to expect, and right now I’m melting with relief.

Anyway.

Wear sunscreen when you go out in the sun.  Even if you have dark skin, even if you don’t burn, you can still get DNA damage from UV light and that’s a lifetime cancer risk.  Sunscreen is cheap and it’s quick to apply and it can save you and your loved ones a hell of a lot of grief.

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